How you learn to manage your disappointments in your life will determine your destiny.
Disappointments come all around us in life. They start coming even when we’re little. When the friend chooses someone else to share her cookie with that day or when we don’t get to go on a class trip or when we miss out on getting the most amazing new toy ever. Sometimes we’ll pout and throw our fits. Other times we’ll get mean and say some angry words because at the core, we’re hurt.
Then we get a little older and well, the disappointments don’t stop coming. The little disappointments are still there like missing out on getting a cute new Starbucks mug because they sold out or missing going to a store because it closed or someone else getting what we wanted. “Bigger” things too can crush our fragile hearts like not getting picked for a job or watching a ministry close down or not being able to get pregnant or watching our plans change. That’s when we might simply cry because we had a plan and now it’s going all wrong. We’d prayed and prayed and things weren’t supposed to turn out this way.
I started writing this post on December 12, 2011. I had no clue on that day what God would do in my life and how different everything would be just a year later. There’s the acknowledgement that if some of my disappointments hadn’t come, I wouldn’t be where I am today. Yet, there’s also the acknowledgement that those disappointments were exactly that. A disappointment. Something to feel, grieve, and walk out. Even when good is worked out of a situation, it can still hurt.
But that’s where Christine Cain ever so convictingly reminds us that how we handle those disappointments will determine our destiny. Will we stay in our hurt and in turn hurt those around us? Will we thank and worship God even so? Will we hold grudges and reject others because of our jealousy or hurt? Will we choose faith or fear? How will we handle our disappointments?
Lord, I haven’t always handled my disappointments with grace and love….help me, teach me, and be with me as the disappointments keep coming so that I can handle them in a healthy, godly way that draws me closer to You.