Yesterday, marked being married for 2 months already! I even got a surprise bag of white chocolate pretzels. I do love gifts and my husband too! Marriage has quite a few perks! One of the fun things that we’ve done both when we were dating and have continued to do now that we’re all old and married off has been ask weekly questions. They can be one of my favorite times because right up next to gifts is words of affirmation for me. These have evolved over the months and some became more relevant after getting married. We’re still working out the bugs and figuring out what questions to modify or add in for us. They’re a fun way to recap, get on the same page, and check-in before the start of a new week.
The original five came from this fun little blog. We’ve debated about the order of the questions but here’s the original order:
1. How did you feel loved this past week?
2. What does your upcoming week look like?
3. How would you feel most loved & encouraged in the days ahead?
4. How would you best feel pursued in sex / intimacy this week? (this is the one we modified when we were dating and mostly left it off or talked about oh hey how are we doing in waiting to have sex until we’re married and how can I help you in that?)
5. How can I pray for you this week?
Beyond these questions, we recently wanted to add a few more…these are the ones we are trying out:
6. How are we doing spiritually? (i.e. how are you doing with reading your bible, are we praying together, are we reading the bible together, etc.)
7. What are you working on this week? (what area do you want to see changed this week or do you want to work on…i.e. get up earlier, go to bed early, plan ahead, etc.)
Then when searching for the blog above, I found a few other potential questions to ask:
8. Is there anything we would like to do differently this week than we did last week?
9. How can I better serve you this week?
10. What were your struggles this past week?
Here’s also some questions to ask periodically:
1. How have the first X months of marriage compared with what you dreamed about or envisioned?
2. What are some of the things we need to acknowledge our thankfulness for in our first months of marriage?
3. What do you want to get better at as a wife or husband?
4. What do we want to get better at as a couple?
5. What are some of the dreams that you have as an individual? How can I help you reach them?
6. What are some of our dreams as a couple? How can we seek after them and surround ourselves with the right people?
7. What are some of our greatest blind spots as a couple?
8. In what ways do you feel like you’ve grown since we’ve gotten married?
There you go! How about you? Do you ask any other questions that I missed or have any other fun things that you love to do as a couple?